Children did not fare better in early ancient Rome than they did in ancient Greece.Parents were governed by the state for acts committed in public, but within their own homes they had absolute authority over their children. The head of the household had the right, upon the birth of a child into the household, to either accept the child or kill him; and parents could beat and kill their children with impunity. Acceptance of a male child was never final. The head of the household could banish a son from the home at any time if he misbehaved. Starvation of children was common. Children of either sex could be sold into slavery.
Laws enacted in the eighth century B.C. banned infanticide, though an exception was made in the case of disabled and genetically deformed children. Parents continued to have the right to kill those children, provided at least five neighbors agreed with the decision.
Physical and sexual abuse of male children reached the same extraordinary levels in ancient Rome as they did in ancient Greece. Male children were often sold into concubinage or to brothels, and young male slaves were commonly kept for sexual purposes. There were boy brothels in every city. In addition, Plutarch referenced many instances of teachers sexually abusing male students eleven years of age and younger. Male children were sometimes castrated as babies so they could be sold to brothels or to men who enjoyed sodomizing them. It was believed that producing children who could be used sexually or as court eunuchs would help further a parent’s political ambitions.
Horace’s Epodas describes a young boy’s liver being removed and used to make a love potion. There was also a market for boys’ testicles as an ingredient in medical potions.
The Law of the Twelve Tables
The Law of the Twelve Tables, ca. 450 B.C., sets out a summary of Roman law that was in effect at that time. A provision giving recognition to common law marriages appears in Table VI, titled, “concerning ownership and possession.” Some historians cite this as evidence that Roman law classified women as property. As explained by the Roman jurist Gaius in the second century A.D., however, a wife was regarded, for purposes of the Twelve Tables, as a lawful heir to property. In addition, wives had dowry rights. Since property does not have rights, and property does not inherit property, it seems irrational to interpret the title of Table VI as evidence that Roman law treated women as property. A more logical explanation is that Table VI was simply intended to describe the circumstances in which an unmarried woman would have the same property rights as a married woman. In any case, there is no question that the early laws of ancient Rome gave some men much greater power than women, children and slaves. The Twelve Tables conferred on married fathers the privilege of patria potestas, a right of life and death over the father’s legitimate male children. A father did not possess this authority over either daughters or illegitimate children, however.
The Tables imposed upon fathers a duty to kill any sons who were born with a deformity or abnormality. Additionally, sons could be sold into slavery.
Devolution and reform
Roman law was not static. The period between 150 B.C. and 1 A.D. was the culmination of one of the lowest, if not the lowest, point in the recorded history of children. Romans generally seemed to have lost all interest in raising children. At one point, the senate decreed that no male children at all should be raised, meaning that if a male child was born to a couple, his parents were required to kill him. Infanticide and abortion were rampant. The divorce rate was very high. Cannibalism – parents literally eating their young – was not uncommon. Young boys were regularly sacrificed to the gods. Adults tortured and killed children for entertainment. One such “entertainment” involved dangling a young child from a pole and watching hyenas pull him down and eat him alive. These atrocities eventually led to significant legal reforms. These would occur during the first few centuries A.D.
Modern legal historians assert that Roman law treated children as the property of their fathers, and that concern for the interests and well-being of children would not emerge in Western law until nearly two millennia later, in twentieth century America. Justinian’s Digest (a compendium of Roman judicial rulings), however, shows that Roman courts were treating children’s interests as superior to parents’ rights at least as early as the second century A.D., and that concern for the well-being of children continued throughout what is sometimes called the Golden Age of the early Byzantine period of ancient Rome. During this period, fathers had no absolute right to the custody of their children. In fact, mothers had the sole and exclusive right to custody of illegitimate children, while fathers generally had a right to custody of legitimate children only during an intact marriage. Gnaeus Domitius Annius Ulpianus, ca. 170 to 223 A.D., described Roman law on the father’s patria potestas right during marriage as follows:
If…it is the mother of the child who retains it in her possession, and it appears to be better that it should remain under her care than to be placed under that of its father, that is to say, if the reason is perfectly just, the Divine Pius decided, and it was stated in a Rescript by Marcus Severus, that relief should be granted to the mother by means of an exception.
The passage quoted above recognized an exception to the rule in the case of legitimate children who were already in the care of their mothers, such as where a married woman separated from her husband and took the children with her. In such cases, if a judge determined that it would be better for the children to remain with the mother than to go with the father, then the court would order that the children were to remain in the custody of their mother. Proof of the father’s fault or bad character was sufficient to establish that it would be better for the children to remain with the mother.
Under early Roman law, then, a mother had — in addition to an absolute right to custody of her illegitimate children — a right to custody of her legitimate children if they were living separately from the father and if it appeared to be in the children’s best interests to remain with the mother.
The passage quoted above dealt with situations in which the husband and wife were still married but living separate and apart from each other. A different legal question is presented when a married couple seeks a dissolution of the marriage. According to Justinian’s Code, in the event of a divorce, custody of legitimate children was never to be decided solely on the basis of the sex of a parent. When a married couple divorced, the court could award custody of children to either the mother or the father. As a general principle, at least, neither a divorcing mother nor a divorcing father had a superior claim. As stated in the Code: “[I]t is not provided by any constitution of ours or of our divine parents that the division of children among the parents should be made according to sex.”
A constitution of Diocletian and Maximian left it to the judge to determine in his discretion to which of the parents the children should go….If a wife divorced her husband for good cause, and she remained unmarried, the children went to be in her custody, but to be maintained by the father; but if the mother was in fault, the father obtained the custody. If he was unable, from want of means, to support them, but she was able to do so, she was obliged to take them and support them.
It appears, then, that Roman law, actually favored mothers. In the case of children born out of wedlock, mothers had an absolute right to sole custody. In the case of married parents living separately, the patria potestas rule that appeared to give fathers absolute rights and powers over their legitimate children was severely limited by the rule that custody would be awarded to the mother if the children were already living with her and it appeared to be in their best interests to remain in her care. In the case of a divorcing couple, the law awarded custody to the mother unless the father could prove both that he had the ability to support the children financially and that the mother was at fault for the breakup of the marriage. Unlike a father, a mother was not required to prove that she had the ability to support the children financially in order to have custody of them.
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